Month: February 2025

Why Changing Behaviors Isn’t Enough

Many co-parents want things to improve, but they focus only on changing the other parent’s behavior. They believe if their co-parent would just be more flexible, communicate better, or stop being difficult, things would improve.

But change doesn’t start with behavior. It starts with mindset.

If you see your co-parent as the problem, you’ll always be in conflict.

The Arbinger Institute’s Outward Mindset explains that conflict thrives when we see others as obstacles rather than people. When we assume negative intent, it fuels tension. But when we stop reacting to behavior and start recognizing the human behind it, everything shifts.

This is exactly what BeH2O™ teaches co-parents: Your mindset, not just your actions, determines the success of your co-parenting relationship.

Continue reading “Week Two: Entrepreneurial Mindset for Co-Parenting Success – Outward Mindset”

At The Layne Project (TLP) and The Layne Project 4 Families (TLP4Families), we are committed to safeguarding childhoods by providing families with the highest quality support through an intentionally designed, proven infrastructure.

We recognized early on that families navigating co-parenting challenges, high-conflict custody situations, and family transitions often experience fragmented and inconsistent support when services are spread across multiple agencies. To solve this, we built TLP’s unique infrastructure to provide a comprehensive, ethical, and highly coordinated approach to family support.

With TLP’s proven service model as its foundation, TLP4Families will able to deliver wraparound services that minimize barriers to care, reduce stress for families, and create a seamless, supportive experience for parents and children alike. Continue reading “How The Layne Project’s Unique Infrastructure Facilitates Ethical and Effective Wraparound Family Services”

Start With Why: The Foundation of Successful Co-Parenting

The Problem: Co-Parenting Without a Clear Why

When entrepreneurs build businesses, they don’t start with what they do or how they do it—they start with why.

Yet, in co-parenting, many parents focus first on logistics (who picks up the kids, what the schedule looks like, how to communicate). The problem? Without a why, co-parenting becomes reactionary rather than intentional.

When co-parents operate without a strong why, they get stuck in:
🚩 Constant conflict over the small stuff
🚩 Communication breakdowns rooted in past resentment
🚩 Short-term wins instead of long-term stability for their child

But when we Start With Why, co-parenting transforms into a mission-driven approach that centers on our child’s well-being.   Continue reading “Week One: Entrepreneurial Mindset for Co-Parenting Success– Start With Why”

How My Entrepreneurial Journey Shaped the BeH2O™ & The Layne Project’s Hard Pivot

🔹 Entrepreneurship & Co-Parenting: An Unexpected Connection

When I started my journey as an entrepreneur, I never expected the business world to transform the way I think about co-parenting, conflict resolution, and systemic change.

Yet, over time, I realized that the same principles that build successful companies—strong leadership, accountability, clear systems, and a mission-driven approach—are exactly what’s missing in many co-parenting dynamics.

The more I studied entrepreneurial strategy, the more I saw parallels between scaling a business and co-parenting effectively.

✅ Businesses thrive when they have a strong mission. Co-parenting improves when parents define their shared purpose (even if they don’t get along).
✅ Businesses implement systems to reduce inefficiency. Co-parents need repeatable communication strategies to avoid unnecessary conflict.
✅ Great companies measure success beyond short-term wins. Great co-parents think about long-term impact on their children, not just immediate disagreements.

These insights directly shaped BeH2O™—a co-parenting model that combines leadership principles, behavioral psychology, and systems thinking to create real, scalable solutions for families.

Continue reading “From Entrepreneurial Insights to Co-Parenting Transformation”

I have a confession: I love me some manifestation. Send out good energy, and that’s what you get back. Joe Dispenza? Yes. Bob Proctor? Of course. But recently, I stumbled upon Annie Duke, and let me tell you—she has officially joined my list of professional crushes. Alongside Diane Kander, she’s rocking my world with a different kind of thinking.

At first, I resisted. Wait, what? Is she saying positive thought is bad? Don’t do it, Trina. Don’t get pulled in. Read on. Don’t get polarized. Challenge your perspective. You’ve got this, Trina. Read on. And so I did.

And what I found was beautiful—not a rejection of positive thinking, but an expansion of it. A balance. A BeH2O moment. It’s not about choosing between optimism and realism, between manifestation and preparation. It’s about both.

Continue reading “The Art of Manifesting with Eyes Wide Open – What Annie Duke Taught Me About Mental Contrasting and Co-Parenting”

Separation is one of the most stressful life events for families—but what’s often overlooked is the financial strain that follows.

Many assume that financial hardship only affects families living in poverty, but a much larger group—ALICE (Asset-Limited, Income-Constrained, Employed) families—are struggling as well. These are hardworking families earning too much to qualify for aid but not enough to afford essential services like mediation, co-parenting support, and legal assistance.

And when separation happens, their financial situation worsens significantly.

Continue reading “The Financial Toll of Separation: A Crisis Families Can’t Afford”

I recently read All In Startup by Diana Kander, and I have to say—it completely blew my mind. The book presents an incredibly simple yet powerful idea: people don’t buy products; they buy solutions. Entrepreneurs often get stuck in the trap of having an idea, building the product, branding it, and then trying to convince customers to buy it. But the real key to success?

✅ Start by identifying the customer’s migraine-level problem
✅ Talk to them, understand their pain, and gather insights
✅ Build a solution that directly addresses their core need
✅ Then, and only then, brand and sell it

This sounds so obvious in hindsight, but how often do we skip straight to creating something we think people need—without really making sure it solves their biggest problem?

And that’s when it hit me… this is exactly what I do in co-parenting coaching.

Continue reading “From Co-Parenting to Entrepreneurship: The Unexpected Lesson from All In Startup”

Sometimes, we find exactly what we need before we even know we need it.

That’s what happened when I stumbled upon Annie Duke’s work on decision-making. I wasn’t looking for a decision-making strategist. I was looking for support for BeAligned, my SaaS platform. But somehow, I found myself diving into her research on how our beliefs shape our choices, how we navigate uncertainty, and how we don’t need to know everything to make an impact.

And as I read, I realized: This is the missing puzzle piece.

For years, I’ve been on a journey of unexpected discoveries—each one transforming not just my business, but my approach to co-parenting and leadership.

• I didn’t know how to run a business. Then I found Simon Sinek’s Golden Circle, and suddenly I had clarity on my why—not just for my company, but for co-parenting.
• My company culture was struggling. Then I found the Arbinger Institute, and their outward mindset approach reshaped everything, from workplace dynamics to how co-parents interact.
• I needed structure to scale. Then I found the Entrepreneurial Operating System (EOS), which helped me build a framework for business growth—and later, an “operating system” for co-parents.

And now, here I am, reading Annie Duke’s work, and I see how it all ties together.

Continue reading “How Everything is Connected—Even When We Don’t See It”