By Trina Nudson, JD, LBSW – Child Advocate & Co-Parenting Coach
In Week 1, we named what no one was talking about.
In Week 2, we outlined the patterns providers start to see once they notice the weight.
Now, it’s time to talk about the strategy that’s often suggested—but rarely works:
Neutrality.
Continue reading “Week 3 of the Where It Lands Series:Why Neutrality Isn’t Enough”
Week 2 of the “Where It Lands” series
By Trina Nudson, JD, LBSW – Child Advocate & Co-Parenting Coach
Once you start seeing how co-parenting dynamics shape your child care program,
you can’t unsee it.
And that’s not a bad thing.
It’s actually the start of something better.
Because awareness isn’t the problem.
It’s the missing piece.
Here are ten things providers often begin to notice once they realize that co-parent conflict isn’t rare or extreme—it’s daily, and it’s theirs to manage: Continue reading “10 Things Providers Start to Notice Once They See the Migraine”
Week 1 of a series on how co-parenting conflict quietly reshapes child care
By Trina Nudson, JD, LBSW – Child Advocate, Co-Parenting Coach, Founder of The Layne Project
A child has two homes.
Two backpacks.
Two people trying their best—just not always together.
At first, it doesn’t seem like a problem.
You learn to print two copies of the newsletter.
You send the same reminder twice.
You stay neutral.
Continue reading “Where It Lands: The Migraine You Didn’t Know You Had”
Some games have clear rules, a finish line, and a single winner. That’s the world of soccer, Monopoly, and spelling bees.
But co-parenting? That’s not a finite game. There’s no scoreboard. No final whistle. No single path to “winning.” Co-parenting is what Simon Sinek calls an infinite game—a relationship dynamic that unfolds over time, shaped by known and unknown players, evolving roles, and an ever-changing set of challenges and milestones.
And yet, so often, parents are handed tools for a finite game: custody schedules as battlefields, communication as performance, compromise as a loss.
BeH2O® emphasizes the goal isn’t to win against the other parent. It’s to keep playing—for the good of the child. That means leading with an infinite mindset.
So what does infinite-minded co-parenting look like? Continue reading “Week 12: The Infinite Game – When Purpose Becomes the Only Option”