Co-Parenting Is Bigger Than Two People

Based on the work of Seth Godin 

Seth Godin’s Tribes reminds us that leadership isn’t about control—it’s about connection. It’s not about power—it’s about purpose.

And in co-parenting, that insight matters more than most people realize.

When a relationship ends, it’s easy for parents to become isolated. To divide up calendars, roles, homes—and unintentionally shrink the circle around their child. But children don’t just need parents. They need a tribe.

A tribe that shares values. A tribe that holds them steady. A tribe that gives them language, safety, and identity. Read more “Week 10: Tribes”

Co-Parenting Starts With You

In entrepreneurship, leadership isn’t about titles—it’s about ownership.
In co-parenting, it’s the same.

Michael Timms makes this clear in his book How Leaders Can Inspire Accountability: you cannot lead others well until you are willing to lead yourself first.

That single mindset shift can transform everything about how co-parents relate to each other—and how they show up for their children.

But here’s the hard part: accountability isn’t comfortable. It asks you to look in the mirror instead of out the window. To take action without needing an apology first. To lead, even when no one else is.

Read more “Week 9: How Leaders Can Inspire Accountability”

Most co-parenting challenges are not emotional—they’re operational.

In Traction, Gino Wickman outlines what makes companies thrive: vision, people, data, issues, process, and traction. Reading it through the lens of BeH2O™, it’s clear—this applies just as much to co-parenting as it does to business.

Read more “Week 8: Traction – Running Your Co-Parenting Like a High-Functioning Business”

What Entrepreneurs and Co-Parents Often Get Wrong

In All In Startup, Diana Kander challenges one of the most common traps in entrepreneurship:

Entrepreneurs fail when they fall in love with their idea instead of their customer’s problem.

That same trap shows up in co-parenting all the time.

One parent builds a routine they believe is ideal.
The other defends a schedule they’ve grown attached to.
Each parent wants to be heard—but neither stops to ask:
Is this working for our child?

Read more “Week 7: All In Startup – Co-Parenting Is a Long Game, Not a Quick Fix”

What If You Treated Co-Parenting Like a Startup?

In The Lean Startup,  defines a startup as an organization designed to create new products and services under conditions of extreme uncertainty.

Sound familiar?

Co-parenting, especially in its early phases, is full of uncertainty, emotional intensity, and untested assumptions. What children need, what the schedule should look like, what communication will work—none of it is obvious.

Instead of guessing or repeating what didn’t work, The Lean Startup offers a method:
Build → Measure → Learn.

This is exactly what we teach in BeH2O™.

Read more “Week 6: Lean Startup – Adapting & Iterating for Co-Parenting Success”

Why 2x Thinking Keeps Co-Parents Stuck

Most parents try to improve co-parenting by doing more—more communication, more involvement, more control. But The Hard Thing About Hard Things taught us that pushing harder isn’t always the answer.

10x Is Easier Than 2x introduces a radical shift: growth doesn’t come from adding—it comes from subtracting.

A 2x mindset is about:

• Doing what you’re already doing, just with more effort
• Trying to make a broken system work instead of building a better one
• Focusing on small, surface-level changes

A 10x mindset is about:

• Letting go of 80% of what isn’t working
• Simplifying down to the core essentials
• Transforming the way you approach co-parenting, not just adjusting the details

Read more “Week 5: 10x Is Easier Than 2x – Focusing on High-Impact Parenting Moves”

Why Co-Parenting Feels Impossible Sometimes

Ben Horowitz’s The Hard Thing About Hard Things doesn’t offer easy solutions—because when you’re leading a company (or co-parenting a child), there aren’t any.

Hard things are hard not because there’s a secret formula you haven’t found yet, but because:

• Your emotions are at odds with your logic
• There are no perfect choices—only the best possible move at the time
• The weight of responsibility can feel isolating

The same is true for co-parenting. There’s no easy path, only the one you create.

Read more “Week 4: The Hard Thing About Hard Things – Navigating Co-Parenting Challenges”

Schools, childcare providers, and professionals working with children strive to create safe, supportive environments. Yet, when communication with co-parents is inconsistent, unclear, or one-sided, they risk creating confusion, conflict, and unintended harm to the very childhoods they aim to protect.

When both parents are not equally informed and engaged, the impact extends beyond just administrative challenges. It affects the child’s emotional stability, their trust in the school or provider, and their ability to thrive in a learning environment.

This is why clear, structured co-parent communication is not just about reducing professional headaches. It is about safeguarding childhoods.

Read more “The Hidden Cost of Inconsistent Co-Parent Communication for Schools, Childcare Providers, and Professionals”

Why Most Co-Parents Feel Stuck

Michael Gerber’s The E-Myth is a classic for a reason—it exposes the biggest mistake most entrepreneurs make: they spend all their time working in their business rather than on their business.

Co-parenting has the same trap. Many parents spend their energy putting out fires, handling daily logistics, and reacting emotionally instead of building a structured, sustainable co-parenting system.

They get stuck in:

• Short-term problem-solving instead of long-term planning
• Constant conflict over details instead of establishing a predictable framework
• Reacting to challenges instead of preventing them with systems

When co-parenting operates without a system, small issues become constant disruptions. The result? A child caught in an unpredictable, stressful environment. Read more “Week 3: The E-Myth – Co-Parenting as a System, Not Just Emotion”

Why Changing Behaviors Isn’t Enough

Many co-parents want things to improve, but they focus only on changing the other parent’s behavior. They believe if their co-parent would just be more flexible, communicate better, or stop being difficult, things would improve.

But change doesn’t start with behavior. It starts with mindset.

If you see your co-parent as the problem, you’ll always be in conflict.

The Arbinger Institute’s Outward Mindset explains that conflict thrives when we see others as obstacles rather than people. When we assume negative intent, it fuels tension. But when we stop reacting to behavior and start recognizing the human behind it, everything shifts.

This is exactly what BeH2O™ teaches co-parents: Your mindset, not just your actions, determines the success of your co-parenting relationship.

Read more “Week 2: Entrepreneurial Mindset for Co-Parenting Success – Outward Mindset”